6 Sixteen Saṃskāras (Ṣoḍaśasaṃskārāḥ) : Part-2 (Vivāhaḥ and Antyeṣṭi)

Korada Subrahmanyam

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2.15 Vivāhaḥ (Marriage)

 

The term literally means (viśiṣṭaḥ vāhaḥ prāpaṇam) to make a girl attain wifehood, i.e. earlier there was “strītvam” (girlhood) and after marriage she attains “bhāryātvam” (wifehood) also. This Saṃskāra is the most important of all.

 

Why Marriage: Taittirīyasaṃhitā (6.3.10.5) says that a Brāhmaṇa is born with three debts and the debts of sages and forefathers have to be cleared by performing Yajñas (sacrifices) and producing children –

 

जायमानो ह वैब्राह्मणस्त्रिस्त्रिर्ऋ णवान्जायतेब्रह्मचयेणर्स्त्रिभ्यः यज्ञेनदेवेभ्यः प्रजया स्त्रितृभ्यःएि वा अनृणोयः िुत्रीयज्वा ब्रह्मचारिवासी . . .

 

jāyamāno ha vai brāhmaṇastribhirṛṇavān jāyate brahmacaryeṇa ṛṣibhyaḥ yajñena devebhyaḥ prajayā pitṛbhyaḥ eṣa vā anṛṇo yaḥ putrī yajvā brahmacārivāsī . . .

 

A Brāhmaṇa is born with three debts – he has to clear the debt of sages through Brahmacaryam (celibacy), that of deities / Godsthrough Yajñas (sacrifices) and that of forefathers through producing children. Therefore the Brāhmaṇa would be debtless if he has children, performs sacrifices and maintains Brahmacaryam.

 

Bride and bridegroom: Gautamadharmasūtram (Chapter 4) prescribed the qualifications of a bride and bridegroom –

 

गृहस्थःसदृशींिायाांस्त्रवन्दतेअनन्यिूवाांयवीयसीम्(४.१)

 

gṛhasthaḥ sadṛśīṃ bhāryāṃ vindate ananyapūrvāṃ yavīyasīm (4.1)

 

One who wants to become a household should get a girl, who is of the same caste, not promised to others and younger in age.

 

Kāmasūtra (3.1.2) recommends an age gap of three years between the bride and groom. Just like raw pepper causes phlegm and dry pepper kills the phlegm, a girl elder than the groom would affect the longevity of the groom. Āyurveda says this clearly –

 

बाला प्राणप्रदा प्रोक्ता युवतीप्राणधारिणी।

 

प्रौढा किोस्त्रत वृद्धत्वंबृद्धामिणमाददशेत्॥

 

bālā prāṇapradā proktā yuvatī prāṇadhāriṇī।

prauḍhā karoti vṛddhatvaṃ bṛddhā maraṇamādiśet॥

 

A girl much younger in age would increase the longevity of the groom, a young girl, i.e. younger in age but not too younger, would help maintain the longevity of the groom, a girl older in age would cause early ageing and too older a lady would cause early death.

 

असमानप्रविैःस्त्रवप्राः (४.२)

 

asamānapravaraiḥ viprāḥ (4.2)

 

The marriage should be between a bride and groom of different Pravaras.

 

Smṛtis prohibited marriage between a bride and groom of the same Gotra (i.e.those who are the progeny of the same sage).

 

A girl and a boy having Sāpiṇḍya (blood relation) should not marry:

 

ऊर्ध्वांसप्तमात्स्त्रितृबन्धुभ्यः।बीस्त्रजनश्च। मातृबन्धुभ्यःिञ्चमात्।(४.३,४,५)

 

ūrdhvaṃ saptamāt pitṛbandhubhyaḥ। bījinaśca। mātṛbandhubhyaḥ pañcamāt।(4.3, 4, 5)

 

Seven generations above father or appointed father (who provides children through Niyoga / arrangement) and five generations above mother is the limit to select the girl.

 

As per the ancient Gṛhyasūtras and Dharmasūtras the girls were married around the time of puberty. Having brothers (sabhrātṛkā) is a must for a girl to be married, although some conditional procedure is offered for a girl without a brother (abhrātṛkā).

 

The Bride: Āpastambagṛhyasūtram prescribes the qualifications of a girl –

 

बन्धुशीललक्षणसम्िन्नाम्अिोगाम्उियच्छेत्। आिस्तम्बगृह्यसूत्रम्,३.१९॥

 

bandhuśīlalakṣaṇasampannām arogām upayacchet।

 

Āpastambagṛhyasūtram 3.19॥

 

A girl having good relatives, virtues like obedience, auspicious physical characteristics and healthy should be married.

 

Here health means not having incurable disease like leprosy.

 

The  Bridegroom:    Āpastamba  clearly   states  the  qualifications  of   a   good bridegroom:

 

बन्धुशीललक्षणसम्िन्नःश्रुतवान्अिोग इस्त्रत विसम्ित्।आिस्तम्बसूत्रम्३.२॰॥

 

bandhuśīlalakṣaṇasampannaḥ śrutavān aroga iti varasampat । ibid. 3.2…॥

 

A boy, who is supported by good relatives, virtues like obedience, auspicious physical characteristics, educated and healthy is a good bridegroom.

 

Here health means without any incurable disease like leprosy.

 

How to decide: Āpastamba (and others) offers an easy way of selecting a bride –यस्यांमनश्चक्षुिोःस्त्रनबन्धः तस्याम्र्स्त्रद्धः नेतित्आदियेतइत्येके ।

 

आिस्तम्बगृह्यसूत्रम्३.२१॥

 

yasyāṃ manaścakṣuṣoḥ nibandhaḥ tasyām ṛddhiḥ netarat ādriyeta ityeke । ibid. 3.21॥

 

In which girl the mind and eyes get fixed, i.e. the girl liked by mind and eyes of bridegroom, is good as a wife and there will be all round prosperity. Some sages say that if that is the case then the other qualifications need not be given much importance.

 

Needless to say marriage between a bride and groom belonging to the same caste (in Spanish “Custa” means “group”) such as Brāhmaṇa, Kṣatriya, Vaiśya etc. is recommended.

 

Eight kinds of marriages: Marriages are divided into eight types –

 

ब्राह्मो दैवस्तथैवािऋःप्राजाित्यस्तथासुिः।

 

गान्धवो िाक्षसश्चैविैशाचश्चाष्टमोऽधमः॥मनुस्मृस्त्रतः३.२१॥

 

brāhmo daivastathaivārṣaḥ prājāpatyastathāsuraḥ.

gāndharvo rākṣasaścaiva paiśācaścāṣṭamo’dhamaḥ॥Manusmṛtiḥ 3.21॥

 

Brāhma, Daiva, Ārṣa, Prājāpatya, Āsura, Gāndharva, Rākṣasa and Paiśāca are the eight kinds of marriages and the last one, i.e. Paiśāca is condemned.

 

Here is an explanation of the eight forms of marriage:

 

  • Brāhmavivāha: Inviting a bridegroom, who is a scholar in Veda and Vedāṅgas etc. to bride’s house, worshipping him as per the capacity and offering the girl.
  • Daivavivāha: A Ṛtvik (priest), who pleased his Yajamāna (the master) of the Yajña etc., by his priesthood, is offered ornaments, clothes etc., worshipped as per the capacity and offered the girl.
  • Ārṣavivāha: Having received a pair (or two) of cows, i.e. a cow and an ox, from the bridegroom as a token, the girl is offered.
  • Prājāpatyavivāha: The donor of the bride says to the groom: “I offer you my girl, both of you should perform the auspicious rites and have good offspring”, worships him and offers the girl.
  • Āsuravivāha: Having paid some amount to bride’s party, the groom weds the girl either in bride’s house or elsewhere, with his own expenditure.
  • Gāndharvavivāha: It is nothing but the so called love-marriage.
  • Rākṣasavivāha: Marrying forcibly a scared girl after threatening her by several means.
  • Paiśācavivāha: Approaching the girl clandestinely, sedating her or taking her while asleep and marrying secretly.

 

The above is just the division of the marriages that were taking place in the society. Among the eight Brāhma, Daiva and Prājāpatya are considered as the best as the donor of bride (Kanyādātā) personally gathers information about the groom and proceeds depending on the virtues.

 

Purpose of marriage: In the Saṃkalpa (the pledge made before any rite) of marriage, the following is stated –

 

धमऋप्रजासम्ित्यथांस्त्रियमुद्वहे dharmaprajāsampatyarthaṃ striyamudvahe I wed this girl for Dharma, offspring and Artha (money matters and day to day life).

 

Further it is asserted in scriptures –

 

या धमाऋथाऋसैवित्यथाऋया ित्यथाऋसा धमाऋथाऋन िवस्त्रत।

 

yā dharmārthā saiva ratyarthā yā ratyarthā sā dharmārthā na bhavati ।

 

The bride who is accepted as wife for Dharma is also for sexual life but the one taken for sexual life cannot be for Dharma.

 

Auspicious time for marriage: Āpastamba rules that all the auspicious stars mentioned in Jyotiṣam (Astrology) have to be taken for marriage –सवाऋस्त्रणिुण्योक्तास्त्रननक्षत्रास्त्रण। आिस्तम्बगृह्यसूत्रम्,२.१३॥

 

sarvāṇi puṇyoktāni nakṣatrāṇi। Āpastambagṛhyasūtram, 2.13॥

 

For Sumuhūrta (an auspicious time span of forty eight minutes called Muhūrta) one should take all the stars said to be auspicious and listed in the works of Jyotiṣam (Astrology).

 

For want of space many more details related to Jyotiṣam with regard to marriage are not being provided but a few. The strength of Guru (Jupiter), who thwarts a hundred thousand defects and Śukra (Venus) who thwarts ten thousand defects is important.

 

Matching of horoscopes: This tradition has been there in Indian subcontinent since time immemorial. The horoscopes of bride and groom are referred to an astrologer (Jyautiṣika) who, in turn would advise whether the pair would make a good couple or not. The Jyautiṣika would take into consideration aspects such as Grahamaitrī (rapport between the lords of Rāśis of bride and groom – this is important for Brāhmaṇas).

 

Kujadoṣa (the defect of Mars placed in wrong house): This is a very important aspect in terms of compatibility between the horoscopes of bride and groom –

 

धनेव्ययेच िाताळेजास्त्रमत्रेचाष्टमेकु जे।

 

िीणांितृऋस्त्रवनाशःस्यात्िुंसांिायाऋस्त्रवनाशनम्॥अगस्त्यसंस्त्रहता॥

 

dhane vyaye ca pātāle jāmitre cāṣṭame kuje ।

 

strīṇāṃ bhartṛvināśaḥ syāt puṃsāṃ bhāryāvināśanam॥

 

Agastyasaṃhitā॥

 

If Kuja (Mars) is placed in second, fourth, seventh, eighth or twelfth house (it is called Kujadoṣa) of the bride then it would cause the death of the groom and vice versa.

 

The above said houses are to be counted from Lagna (ascendant), Rāśi (the house in which Moon is situated) and Śukra (Venus). However the Kujadoṣa gets nullified if there is any of the three relations of Guru (Jupiter) with Kuja, i.e. Parivartana (swapping of houses by Guru and Kuja), or association (both Guru and Kuja in the same house) or aspect of Guru to Kuja (Guru has fifth, seventh and ninth aspects). Similarly for those who are born in Kuja’s own houses, i.e. Meṣa (Aries) and Vṛścika (Scoprio), Mitrakṣetra (friend’s house), i.e. Simha (Leo) of Ravi (Sun), Mīna (Pisces) and Dhanus (Sagittarius) of Guru, Karkaṭaka (Cancer) of Candra (Moon), Uccakṣetra (zenith) i.e. Makara (Capricorn) – Kujadoṣa is nullified – अके न्दुक्षेत्रजातानांकुजदोिोन स्त्रवद्यते। स्वोच्चस्त्रमत्रिजातानांिीडको न िवेत्कु जः॥देवके िळम्॥ arkendukṣetrajātānāṃ kujadoṣo na vidyate । svoccamitrabhajātānāṃ pīḍako na bhavetkujaḥ॥ Devakeraḷam ॥

 

Further, there will be compatibility if Kujadoṣa is there in the horoscopes of both the bride and groom.

 

While fixing the Muhūrta (auspicious time) for marriage one has to take care of the conditions such as Jāmitraśuddhi (either no planet in the seventh house from Lagnam / ascendant or there is Śubhagraha / auspicious planet in that house) etc. that are prescribed in the works on Jyotiṣam such as Kālāmṛtam, Muhūrtacintāmaṇi etc.

 

Major events of marriage: Since marriage, unlike other Saṃskāras , has a lengthy process, there will be many events. So, some major events are being explained.

 

i.Madhuparka: Literally it means “pouring honey”. While receiving the bridegroom at the bride’s house, honey etc. are offered just to honour the groom’s party.

ii.Parasparavīkṣaṇam:  It  means  looking  at  each  other.  Just  before  the Muhūrta (fixed auspicious time) a piece of cloth is held between the bride and groom. At the time of Muhūrta the bride and groom look at each other while the groom recites a hymn (Ṛk – “abhrātṛghnīm”). Maṇgalāṣṭakas (auspicious verses such as “tadeva lagnam sudinam tadeva”) are recited while the interposed cloth is held.

iii.Kanyādānam (Gift of bride): It is in this rite that the father of the bride tells the bridegroom –धमेचाथेच कामेच त्वया एिा नास्त्रतचरितव्याdharme cārthe ca kāme ca tvayā eṣā nāticaritavyā

 

You should not ignore this girl in terms of Dharma, Artha (money matters etc.) and Kāma (sex related matters).

 

Hereafter the bride is called Patnī / Bhāryā / Sahadharmacāriṇī while the bridegroom is called Pati / Bhartā etc. Together both are called Dampatī.

 

The groom then responds –नास्त्रतचिास्त्रम nāticarāmi I shall not ignore.

 

Jaimini in Pūrvamīmāṃsā (6.1.4.17) rules that both husband and wife have to do the rites jointly but not separately –

 

स्ववतोस्तुवचनादैककम्यांस्यात्

 

svavatostu vacanādaikakarmyaṃ syāt

 

In the case of a wife and husband with wealth, due to the Vedic sentence (dharme cārthe ca kāme ca nāticaritavyā) both are entitled to combinedly perform the same rite.

 

This is popularly referred to as

 

दम्ित्योः सहास्त्रधकािात्

 

dampatyoḥ sahādhikārāt

 

Since the wife and husband have to do things together.

 

Pāṇini (4.1.33) also confirms the above said aspect – ित्युनोयज्ञसंयोगे

 

patyurno yajñasaṃyoge Patnī (wife) is a word produced on the root Pati (husband) if both of them together perform the rites.

 

iv.Pāṇigrahaṇam and Pradhānahoma: Pāṇigrahaṇam (marriage) literally means “holding the hand” (of Patnī by Pati). “Pradhānahoma” is the principal fire for oblations (later there will be “Śeṣahoma” or remaining fire oblations). After holding Patnī’s hand Pati combinedly performs the homa.

 

v.Lājahoma: Patnī offers fried grain (lājas) in fire for three times while Mantras are being recited.

vi.Agnipariṇayanam: It means going around the fire. Reciting some Mantras the Pati along with Patnī makes Pradakṣiṇam around the fire and the water jar.

vii.Aśmārohaṇa: The Patnī is made to tread on a millstone. The above three, viz. lājahoma, agnipariṇayana and aśmārohaṇa are done thrice, one after the other.

 

viii.Saptapadī: Literally it means a rite in which the Patnī is made by Pati to walk seven steps. According to tradition friendship is established between people by walking seven steps together or speaking seven words with each other –

 

साप्तिदीनंसख्यम्(िास्त्रणस्त्रनसूत्रम्५.२.२)

 

सख्यंसाप्तिदीनंस्यात्(अमिकोशः २.८.१२)

 

sāptapadīnaṃ sakhyam (pāṇinisūtram 5.2.2)

 

sakhyaṃ sāptapadīnaṃ syāt (amarakośaḥ 2.8.12)

 

This is a very important aspect of marriage. After completing the seven steps together with Pati, the Patnī would lose her father’s Gotram (origin of inheritance from a sage) and needless to say would attain the Gotram of her Pati –

 

स्वगोत्रात्भ्रश्यतेनािी स्त्रववाहात्सप्तमेिदे(स्मृस्त्रतः)

 

svagotrāt bhraśyate nārī vivāhāt saptame pade (smṛtiḥ)

 

The bride would lose her Gotram in the seventh step in the marriage. Āpastamba clearly explains the procedure of Saptapadī –

 

अथैनामुत्तिेणाग्नंदस्त्रक्षणेनिदा प्राचीमुदीचींवा ददशम्अस्त्रिप्रक्रमयस्त्रत एकस्त्रमि इस्त्रत ॥ (आिस्तम्बगृह्यसूत्रम्,४.१५)

 

athaināmuttareṇāgniṃ dakṣiṇena padā prācīmudīcīṃ vā diśam abhiprakramayati ekamiṣa iti ॥(Āpastambagṛhyasūtram, 4.15)

 

After Pāṇigrahaṇam, a cloth has to be spread on the north side of the fire in such a way that the end-part of the cloth is left in the east or north, rice is to be put on the cloth and the Pati makes the Patnī walk along on the rice towards east or north for seven steps placing the right foot first.

 

At every step the Pati recites a specific Mantra –

 

 Step 1:     एकस्त्रमिेस्त्रवषणुःत्वान्वेतु

 

ekamiṣe viṣṇuḥ tvānvetu May Viṣṇu give you rice for your first step.

 

Step 2:     ऊजेस्त्रवषणुःत्वान्वेतु

 

ūrje viṣṇuḥ tvānvetu May Viṣṇu give you strength for your second step.

 

Step 3:     त्रीस्त्रण व्रताय स्त्रवषणुःत्वान्वेतु

 

trīṇi vratāya viṣṇuḥ tvānvetu May Viṣṇu give you the will power to perform Vratas (rites with specific conditions) for your third step.

 

Step 4:     चत्वारि मायो िवाय स्त्रवषणुःत्वान्वेतु

 

catvāri māyo bhavāya viṣṇuḥ tvānvetu May Viṣṇu give you comfort for your fourth step.

 

Step 5:     िञ्च िशुभ्योस्त्रवषणुःत्वान्वेतु

 

pañca paśubhyo viṣṇuḥ tvānvetu May Viṣṇu give you cattle for your fifth step.

 

Step 6:     िडृतुभ्योस्त्रवषणुःत्वान्वेतु

 

ṣaḍṛtubhyo viṣṇuḥ tvānvetu May Viṣṇu give you wealth of seasons for your sixth step.

 

Step 7:     सप्त सप्तभ्यो होत्राभ्यो स्त्रवषणुःत्वान्वेतु

 

sapta saptabhyo hotrābhyo viṣṇuḥ tvānvetu May Viṣṇu give you the mercy of the seven sages for your seventh step

 

After the Patnī is on the seventh step the Pati recites the Mantra “sakhā saptapadā . . . ” – says Āpastamba –

 

सखेस्त्रतसप्तमेिदेजिस्त्रत

 

sakheti saptame pade japati

 

The Pati pronounces the Mantra starting “sakhā saptapadā” after the Patnī is on the seventh step.

 

The following (portion of) Mantra is recited by the Pati when the Patnī is on her seventh step:

 

सखा सप्तिदा िव। सखायौ सप्तिदा बिूव।सख्यंतेगमेयम्।सख्यात्तेमा योिम्। सख्यान्मे मा योष्ाः। समयाव सङ्कल्िावहै। संस्त्रप्रयौ िोस्त्रचषणू सुमनस्यमानौ. . . ।

 

sakhā saptapadā bhava । sakhāyau saptapadā babhūva । sakhyaṃ te gameyam. sakhyātte mā yoṣam । sakhyānme mā yoṣṭhāḥ । samayāva saṅkalpāvahai. saṃpriyau rociṣṇū sumanasyamānau . . . ।

 

O! my wife, who made seven steps! Be a friend of mine; you who made seven steps, and me, both of us became friends. I got friendship and hereafter I would not part with you, do not part from me. Let us be together; let us take common decisions in household matters; let us have mutual affection; let us shine by mutual dependence and let us be with good minds . . .

 

ix.  Gṛhapraveśa: After Saptapadī the Pati takes Patnī to his house while reciting the following Mantras, which are significant –. . . मूधाऋनंित्युिािोहप्रजया च स्त्रविाड्िव। सम्राज्ञी श्वशुिेिव सम्राज्ञी श्वश्व्रांिव ननान्दरि सम्राज्ञी िव।

 

. . . mūrdhānaṃ patyurāroha prajayā ca virāḍ bhava । samrājñī śvaśure bhava samrājñī śvaśvrāṃ bhava nanāndari samrājñī bhava ।

 

You sit on the head of your husband, i.e. be important (like the head for body) for me, have good number of children (ten children are the limit), be loved by father-in-law, mother-in-law, sister-in-law etc., i.e. maintain good relation with all of them.

 

There is Homa (oblation in fire) at the time of Gṛhapraveśa.

 

x.Dhruvārundhatīdarśanam: While reciting some Mantras, the Pati shows both the stars, viz. Dhruva and Arundhatī to Patnī at night on the day of marriage.

 

xi.Āgneyasthālīpāka: Both, Patnī and Pati cook rice in a vessel and offer to fire (Agni) with Mantras. Patnī pounds the paddy and the Pati would see through cooking. After putting down the rice-vessel on Kuśas (holy grass) both Pati and Patnī, touching each other, have to offer the cooked rice as oblation to the fire, while Mantras are being recited. The rice is to be sprinkled with clarified butter (Abhighāra) twice, when the vessel is still on the hearth and after it is put down. In this rite Agni (fire) is the Devatā (deity). Sthālī is vessel and Pāka is cooking. So it is called Āgneyasthālīpāka.

xii. Maṅgalasūtradhāraṇam: Tying an auspicious string with golden beads around the neck of Patnī by Pati. Maṅgalasūtram (the auspicious string) is considered important for a Patnī whose husband is alive. It is also a sign of a married woman.

 

Ardhāṅgī: The term is used to mean Patnī (wife). Literally it means “half of the body (of Pati)”. This aspect is clearly stated in Veda itself:

 

अधो ह वा एि आत्मनो यज्जाया। शतिथब्राह्मणम्, ५.२.१.१॰, ८.७.२.३॥

अधो वा एि आत्मनो यत्ित्नी। तैस्त्रत्तिीयसंस्त्रहता,६.१.८.५॥

 

ardho ha vā eṣa ātmano yajjāyā । śatapathabrāhmaṇam, 5.2.1.1…, 8.7.2.3॥

ardho vā eṣa ātmano yatpatnī । taittirīyasaṃhitā, 6.1.8.5॥

 

Jāyā / Patnī (wife) is certainly half of the body of Pati (husband). Āpastamba rules out any difference between Pati and Patnī –

 

जायाित्योः न स्त्रविागोऽस्त्रस्त। िास्त्रणग्रहणास्त्रद्ध सहत्वंकमऋसुतथा िुण्यफलेिुच। आिस्तम्बधमऋसूत्रम्,२.६.१३.१६, १७॥

 

jāyāpatyoḥ na vibhāgo’sti । pāṇigrahaṇāddhi sahatvaṃ karmasu tathā puṇyaphaleṣu ca   Āpastambadharmasūtram, 2.6.13.16, 17॥

 

There is no any separation between Pati and Patnī, i.e. both are to be treated as a single entity. By Pāṇigrahaṇam (marriage) there will be togetherness between them in all rites and in the activities meant for Puṇyam (opposite of Pāpam / sin).

 

Patnī would partake the Puṇyam but not Pāpam of Pati.

 

2.16 Antyeṣṭi

 

The Saṃskāra to be performed at the end (of life), i.e. at the time of death of a person. The earlier fifteen Saṃskāras are performed while a person is alive. The last one, viz. Antyeṣṭi is performed after death of a person in order to get him a comfortable position. Antyeṣṭi is performed by sons.

 

जातस्य स्त्रह ध्रुवोमृत्युःध्रुवंजन्म मृतस्यच। तस्मादिारिहायेऽथेन त्वंशोस्त्रचतुमहऋस्त्रत॥ िगवद्गीता, २.२७॥

 

jātasya hi dhruvo mṛtyuḥ dhruvaṃ janma mṛtasya ca। tasmādapārihārye’rthe na tvaṃ śocitumarhati ॥ Bhagavadgītā, 2.27॥

 

Śrīkṛṣṇa tells Arjuna during the great war of Mahābhārata – whoever is born has to die and one who is dead would be born, i.e. it is an unending cycle of birth and death. Therefore, you are not supposed to weep with regard to a thing that is inevitable.

 

People of Vedic tradition believe that the physical body is perishable whereas Ātmā (soul) is eternal / indestructible; there are Svarga (heaven) and Naraka (hell) that are caused by Karma (nemesis), viz. Puṇyam and Pāpam (sin); there is rebirth and an entity called Īśvara is running the universe.

 

After the death of a person, the near relatives would attain Aśaucam (impurity) for ten days. There is a lot of procedure to be followed right from burning the dead body to offering Daśadānāni (ten kinds of donations) among which is Godānam (donation of a milky cow with calf).

 

Different procedures of Antyeṣṭi are prescribed for different people, i.e. a Brahmacārī (celibate), a Śrotriya (Vedic scholar), a Yati (a Saṃnyāsī), a virgin, a married woman, a widow, a widower etc. Pitṛmedha has to be performed by the son. For the first twelve months, a monthly death ceremony called Māsikam is to be performed. Then yearly death ceremony called Ābdikam has to be performed. At every step there are some exemptions for people who cannot meet the standard procedure for some reason or the other. Such are called Āpaddharma (the Dharma in a hostile situation).

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